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November 2010

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Writer's Block: Kids or child-free?

Whether you've chosen to have children or live child-free, how and when did you (or will you) reach this decision? If you're in a relationship, did you (or will you) decide separately or together?

I think conciously around 13ish I debated whether I'd ever want kids or not. I'm 25 and I more or less joke I'll "start" having kids at 30 or so, I guess I'll see where I am then and decide (LIMIT 1, or 2 MAX). I've wanted to adopt an Asian baby for years now. XD I would love to be finacially free to do that in the future. I feel this cosmic pressure to let part of myself live on but my higher brain says...uhh why? What's the point? The world sucks but life is awesome. Also, I love kids and hate most parents (how they talk to their child, raise them IMO totally wrong, have too many to take care of and generally pass their terrible views on the their offspring). I believe kids are born tabula rasa and no on asked to be born, it's not their fault at all, it's the parents fault. I KNOW I would be great a mom. Yet, I am no where near where I want to be in a career or financially, and will not burden a child with my lack of finances/flightyness with jobs and college. I want to lead MY life first, I haven't done nearly enough of things I want to do and a child would burden me in my quest at this point.